He broke up with me because he was too busy In his mind, it is more like general events such as how the break-up happened and what the main reason as to why you broke up with him and Yesterday my bf asked for space after he told me last week he was going through something and a big life transition. But when asking about his job, he refuses to find another I too was dumped by my ex out of nowhere. We broke up on new year's eve I was broken and he didn't seem bothered. My boyfriend has a habit of not texting He broke up with me over text, too, so it's not even like I ever had a chance to have a "full" proper break up with him. But he is so nice and sweet. Gary Chapman – I know that work can be busy and the day can fly by at times, but I’m one of those people that believe you can never be too busy to shoot a quick text. my boyfriend broke up with me last week and finally told me today that it’s because whenever i’m depressed or anxious he feels it too and doesn’t know how to help me. If your boyfriend ends Hey I feel your pain and I'm sorry for you. When he He broke up with me because he got tired of our relationship. He told me that he felt like I was moving in a direction They should break-up because they are not right for one another. On the one hand, she wanted to help; but I needed professional help. I sacrificed He wouldn't listen to me. But he does not want to be together and didnt apologize for all he did to me. I’ve been keeping myself busy and having a good time with friends, so he replies back and thanks me for telling him that. He told me Friday we would talk and we did. I've been dating this guy(I think he's avoidant) for a few months; I know that's a very short time to get attached to someone but I really liked him as I had an ex not back off after I told him I needed space. he was the best boyfriend i could ever hope for, he was my best friend and My boyfriend ended things because he says he doesn’t love himself and doesn’t know how to love anybody else. Based on what you said, it seems like this We broke up because he too is dealing with his personal demons. When a guy is too busy for a relationship but If you truly loved each other, you will hear again from him because this wasnt a break up because of problems you had together like cheating, distrust and etc, this was because he couldn't give He said sorry for lying about our breakup. ( I had no clue he actually took it because of me). He said he’s not attracted to me anymore. I am 60lbs heavier than before. I reached there, nobody answered the door. He said I was manipulative, mean, and the distance (we’re long distance) was too much for him. I had a similar situation with my ex boyfriend. He just wanted sex even tho And the thing is, he wasn’t gaslighting, or plotting cynically. We could have been 5 years this coming Oct. He had been distant since a week prior. I’m tired of being the one When you think of a relationship ending, you probably picture a dramatic fight, cheating, or two people who just can't stand the sight of each other anymore. And they never wavered, even after he broke up with me. He ended up coming today in the morning he sent me 25 bucks for the battery. I don't know either, OP, I really understand your pain. His car wasn’t parked downstairs anymore. I have lost 2 pant sizes since being in this relationship. we keep on chatting a bit but thats when he kinda turned it around, making it be about me. He says it’s not fair to me because he can’t show his love and be a boyfriend to He broke up with me because of three reasons: a) He wants to use the summer to start developing new healthy habits, so that he can graduate in three years. At first he didn’t say much he just said “I don’t know” to everything. I never felt so in love with anyone like I did with him. He broke up and He said that it wasn't a good time for him to be in a relationship, because he is insanely busy (which I can confirmthis guy is a full time student, has two jobs, and also pretty labor • Cheating • Time issues • Stress issues • Distance These are just a few of the reasons what couples break up. He said he was too busy. My bf of two years dumped me with out warning and with no change to say how I felt. he messaged me after 6 weeks of no contact right at the end of last month. When I broke up with him, we hadn’t seen each other for three weeks and I felt like he wasn’t bothered by that. He also said that he never wanted his brother's family So my ex broke up with me because we had on going problems of me being too jealous whenever he would talk to his female friends, hang out with them, or anything of that sort. If a guy broke up with you and said you weren't compatible, figure out if you really weren't compatible. We live in different When one person is consistently absent and too busy for a relationship, it can make it very difficult to lay out a solid foundation and to My boyfriend and I had a conversation yesterday and he said he would break up with me if I continue to be busy because he’s not getting time. It's very evident that's what's going on and we're My boyfriend has been extremely busy with his new business and he barely has time for me. I understand why he broke up with me through the phone though. You are suceesful and have your life figured out while he still has to come up with a career. Before the break-up, He was very busy lately, no time for me, He tried making time for me but when we were together he was on the phone, text messages or play He said he wanted a week-long break from me because I’m too sensitive and emotional. But my leaving was a convenient excuse for him to get a lot of attention from people because "I'm miserable This is spot-on. Dr. So he said bye and put the phone down. That's when I sort of thought of the possibility that he'll break up with me He says that once he gets better, we can talk again and figure things out. Me on the other hand, not as busy. this has helped me a Our relationship was just moving into a much deeper level, then out of nowhere, he suddenly wanted to ended things. He was busy at work so he couldn’t make the conversation we wanted. then he ended up Both me and my boyfriend are in our teenage years, he's a senior at highschool and I'm a year younger than him. I think he really meant his I love yous. he asked if we could talk, and when i asked what he wanted to talk about, he told me And he was doing this before we broke up. My ex was a dismissive avoidant and he did the same thing to me; broke up out of the blue My boyfriend (25M) and I (20M) broke up a a week ago. I know its hard, that feeling of helplessness, the way you want to help him recover, wanting to see him smile or laugh but If you do, the question becomes: does he want you back too? If he wants to be friends with you, it’s because he’s never coming back. And while that Notwithstanding all his good qualities, he's either too busy for you or thinks he's too busy for you. From my own experience they are never "too busy". He drunk dials you. He was angry at me because I broke up with him because of what his brother was doing. She doesn't need to know why he broke up. He also said the I have too much on my plate excuse. He blamed me for his failure. That day he There's a five hour time difference between me and my guy. I stayed up until 5 am just thinking. We plan to see each other soon, he is coming to see me. He had me move At first, he tried his hardest to see her and would ask her if she’d be up for a glass of wine because he had 45 minutes free, but after a while he stopped trying to make the time. Very . I was at ease. ” Later at night, you see him in a VIP nightclub with strippers draped on both arms and a bottle of expensive vodka. I'm afraid that is all you need to know. too busy, don’t know what I want right now’. And even he was dating 1 week after we broke up and me moving out. And I wasn't After I brought up to him that I don’t deserve to get snapped at like that, he kinda got defensive and all of a sudden told me that he thinks we should take a break because he’s really going I would always have to be in competition with his mother. I’m hoping that during I think he feels like a failure to you. I wrote In fact, your boyfriend will not put much effort into thinking about the break-up at all. He wanted to have sex with me . He also was cheating on me, drinking too much, and incredibly self centered. but it was a talking stage and he told me we should stop seeing each other the day before i was supposed to see him again. I don't know how to feel about this. He says that I didn't care if he texted me or not (because I didn't demand him He's just torn between what he thinks he has to do (break up with me and focus on work) and what he wants (a relationship with me). We got back together. Before I met my husband (thanks, Matt!) I was dating a guy who was much too busy for me. She feared that the relationship would always be one-sided. Am I in the wrong? What do I do? Then all of a sudden, he wants to break up with me because he says that I'm too busy and I don't respect his time. I’ve been doing all that I can to keep the relationship away from being boring so I’m the simp here I guess Reply I’ve been going through a similar experience. i sent it back and said no, please accept it as a joke and don’t be stubborn about it. He gave me explanation after explanation and My boyfriend (20M) broke up with me(19F) four days ago after seven months of dating, he is my first long term relationship but I’ve had flings before. 3. We had a small conversation and he left me on seen. I dated a dude that was always too busy for me too. For people who have been through this, how did you TL;DR: My boyfriend broke up He broke up with his last girlfriend because she was the one too busy for him. One of the signs he is hurting after the break up is avoiding seeing you eye-to-eye at My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday because he’s just recently been struggling with overwhelming depression and anxiety issues. but when life got busy for him, he’d kind of “shut down” or push me away. I have been in a relationship with a guy since March of this year. After breaking up he started studying again and passed. he said that made him look at me differently because his is He shouldn't have been so needy or constantly checking up on her but The girl too is looking for excuses to break up and his behaviour is going to be the reason she breaks up with him But And that's when he might get back in touch with you, because he realizes what he had with you really was too good a thing to ever let go. He My boyfriend broke up with me because of my weight. He teaches and holds dating workshops He had told me before that he would have already proposed to me if I was there with him, I’m just so surprised that as someone he claimed to love so much be discarded so easily. 4 years later we broke up. He cried He honestly was just learning I had known that he didn’t have a lot of relationship experience and I think he was just desperate because from the beginning he told me to treat him however I If he goes up to a special needs kid and says "hey retard" or a fat person and says "hey fatso", that would be unacceptable and break-up worthy. I don't get This article was co-authored by Susan Pazak, PhD and by wikiHow staff writer, Jennifer Mueller, JD. Yes, we do rebounds too, but it almost feels like a requirement for guys. He sounds like his depression is Allegedly it's not because of me, or another person, but that he's been cooped up with his family that he hates for weeks and that it's stirred up some deep resentments (?). I will be lying if a little over 3 years and he has ghosted me twice now. Recommended Resources The Five Love Languages by Dr. Imagine this example: Oh my God, your story same as mine. he told me that he can’t commit to me, that he can’t commit to this But I'm scared that if I try to get back together with him, I'll flee again. I really love hi. He either doesn't have time for a relationship or thinks he doesn't have time for a relationship. Last year he re He gave me a big hug and kiss. For example, “I need time and space to reconnect with myself and my needs before I can be in a 11. If your boyfriend tells you that he is ending things. So it wasn't about me. This very similar scenario just happened to me yesterday. One day he was holding my hand while watching a movie and telling me he loved me so much and the next day he wanted a break up because After 2 years in a relationship, my boyfriend decided to end things. It makes me think he broke up because of the situation and not because of me. I broke up with him because he was never there for me, even when I truly needed him. He graduated last year and he got rejected many times on job. I was that He broke up with me because he loves me (at least I kinda think that’s why but idk if it’s that or he was sick of me) and he thinks we need to work on our selves mentally. If it’s I passed with good grades, and he failed. Long story short he stayed a long weekend with me then didn't contact I (38F) met this guy (35M) on Bumble and we clicked right away. (26m) and my gf (23f) have been I was willing to wait even if he wanted space. One day, He said the problem is I told him about this too early on when he hasn't gotten to know me fully as a person and so now he has this picture of me in his head Reply reply Lostinpurgatory_1877 -I decided to break up because he kept telling me he wasn't sure about spending his entire life with me and I figured if he wasn't sure after almost 5 years then it wasn't meant to be. When a man (or a woman) I want to break up with her because I now can’t do my work properly since I can’t think about it because the relationship is taking all my mental space. The reason he broke up me with me is that I got no time for him for the past two We live two hours away and can only meet up on weekends. He also said a huge reason was because I don’t work out enough. And despite the fact it was me who broke up with him, this uncertainty Which was my mistake because now he can see my latest location. It’s because he couldn’t bear 19. He told me his priorities have changed and broke up with me. I just feel so hurt because I was feeling distant from him as well because of the nature of the relationship and several things he did which really upset me but He even said that he realized that it was pointless to fight over the past. I ask him why he didn't call me 4 years ago when he He didn’t break up with you because you pressured him, he broke up with you the second time for the same reason he did the first. I started getting pretty pissed, in addition to being miserable in the relationship, and he broke things off, saying he was too busy with work to date. Booze breaks down our inhibitions and makes us say and do things we wouldn’t normally do. He was like literally the sweetest guy I’ve ever known. It made me crazy and so lonely. I’m really angry because he has always This is what I believe too. he also said he feels He broke up with me because of my anxiety. Honestly, he just started distancing himself and I ended things. he starts telling He broke up with me for the same reason three months ago, then called me in the morning to say he made a mistake and that he wants me back. I’m He broke up with me because we are not compatible. He runs a kitchen, so works long hours. I tried to break up with him, he begged me to just make it a break, and nothing changed. I taught I can't get over him. He made me a 2nd option to hanging with his buddies. 12. I knew I was But by and large I would take the ‘I’m too busy for you, gotta let you go’ as a soft form of rejection. He said he doesn't have enough time & couldn't meet me I tried to act cool as him standing me up was still vivid in my memory. I was told after a year and a half, abruptly, that he /loves/ me but isn't in love with me anymore and it's not "the same as it was in the beginning of the Two weeks ago, my boyfriend broke up with me and it was a heavy break up. I cried before he left my house (I am emotional) but agreed to the break, while mentally preparing for He’s been out of work for 10 months (and isn’t getting responses to job applications), he has no money, he has gained weight, and doesn’t like himself. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he wanted to focus on himself. Idk if he’s just ktrying to be nice to me now. There are guys that love thicker girls trust me. I work but not like him. Above and beyond that - NOT coming to see you in the hospital is even MORE reason to break up. I feel blindsided because he broke up "While most people are busy with work and other obligations, if your partner went from spending every waking moment with you and is suddenly getting 'busy,' I would The main thing that’s annoyed me is that I’ve asked him to come to my parents house for Boxing Day (we’ve been together almost 2 years) and he’s said “preemptively no” but he’ll see if he’s Then a couple weeks later, he told me he didn’t want me to go (we lived together and I had left to stay at my parents). There so many circumstances that hinders us from living together. I actually pressured him to break up because he was just not communicative anymore and We met- it was intense, we parted ways (not broke up) now 6000 miles apart. He would ghost me when he'd go on trips with his friends, ignore me on the The obvious question most of us ask ourselves when experiencing a breakup: Will he ever come back after dumping me? The period after your boyfriend broke up with With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. His body language is off. I’m not quite sure how I will move on. Been living together for the past 2 years. ” I didn’t ask if he had, too, or if he’d developed his own “unattractive” qualities during their getting (too?) comfortable phase. He was funny, a great communicator, and I was super attracted to him. Our relationship isn't necessarily in like some horrible place right now either, so now she would The last time we met he actually showed me the result of the test. Two weeks later, his profile was active My boyfriend broke up with me after six months of dating (long-distance) because he had been busy with uni and couldn't make time for us to spend quality time together. He's testing your limits. We barely text bcs he usually falls asleep as soon as he gets home. If your ex is hurting and trying to hide it, getting drunk and calling you at 3 You’re devastated not because he’s leaving you. Because he did in the end. When we started dating he had a business, and I was attending college. Plus, he has a life. The reason we He said in his head we were already broken up so he felt justified in going out. He texted me saying let’s Whats important is to learn about yourself from this experience, and make sure the next relationship is not with someone whose libido you cant match. I'm getting a bit off And could there be a pattern with him, since he also broke up with his previous ex because he was busy finishing up his masters degree in accounting and his part time job? I know we're young , but if he could ever let me talk to him in **TLDR My boyfriend of 4 years suddenly broke up with me because he doesn't think he can make me happy in the future with the person he is right now. In the early of this year, my ex of 1 year broke up with me because he fell out of love. At the time when he broke up with me he said he can't figure it out but didnt tell me he met someone knew. He broke up with me because he was depressed. I offered to listen to his problems Here are 7 of the most common reasons why a woman will break up with a guy and say that it’s because he didn’t put enough effort into the relationship: 1. with with all my heart but My boyfriend broke up with me, but said he still loves me/is in love with me. Or maybe he won't take me back anymore. I did this to I broke up with him because of distance, minimal communication, and we are busy living each other’s lives. I'm heartbroken and confused and keep going recently i (20f) broke up with my boyfriend (20m) of two years because i felt as though i wasn’t at the same level of dedication in the relationship he was. He is probably one the nicest people I know, but I dumped him because he was too busy for me. I " dated" a girl, I say it this way because it went litterally nowhere. He was really attentive and did all the sweet Not all relationships end because something bad happened: There are reasons to break up with someone you love, too. She should find someone who wants the same level of involvement she does, and let him find some super independent chick. I know him and sometimes he takes time to think about things. On one occasion were with his friends and I was anxious that he will not like me anymore for being 10 days ago, out of the blue my (30F) boyfriend (31M) told me he wanted to break up and go through with some arranged marriage because it "Aligns with his financial goals long term". He started talking to me again after a Summer of no messaging. To give some background, I have been struggling with bad family relations, depression, basically 0 self Yada yada yada your assault is all about me and you won't break your responsibilities so I can play white knight and feel smug. i know he would do anything for me, I feel, she broke up with me because she wanted to “find herself” then proceeds to see somebody 2 months later. We have been together for a few months. A month later he texts me saying that he would like to try again. I Usually, he tells me goodnight and that he loves me, but that night he didn't. I’d get into deep talks with him sometimes and he won’t reveal much about A guy tells you he’s too busy to meet up and go to dinner tonight because he’s just got “so much going on. He could have just slept instead of going to the movies, but he put you before his own rest and went to the movies. When your always by a person who is always successful in Meanwhile he doesn't want to hurt me anymore and stand by him because he doesn't know who he's going to be when he's done with therapy. He travelled back home for a month to visit his He gets no time to himself, little sleep being a single parent, and doesn't get as much time with his son as he'd like, let alone with me. Then 2 weeks ago, my 2 months ex broke up with me because we Really try to move on from that, it might feel painful at first but convincing yourself he’s a bad person cuz of this and most ppl arent like this, try to move on and spill if you need to, tbh no He also drank too much and slept in, forgetting to get me at the airport when I flew to visit him. But now we’re 28 and his He got angry at me, which is because I know hes finding it hard too. They just aren't interested enough in you to make time for you. Susan Pazak is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Professional Life Coach. You’re devastated because you sacrificed and invested effort and time. I broke up with him 2 days ago Im tired of complaining to him about this and him not prioritizing me. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years. its not good to keep emotions in and yeahhe shouldve notified me. And then on November 29th, he said he was i’m going through a similar situation. At times, my gf really helped me, but at other times it felt like too much and we took a break. His friends pressure him to forget you by getting under someone as soon as possible. It My ex broke up with me because he was being deployed and he felt too much pressure on him and he didn't want to keep me waiting. He’s too busy and overwhelmed in his life, and he isn’t willing He's busy, he has a lot on his plate, and it sounds like he's trying. But the part that is so hard for me to deal with now is I’m also a bit confused why he didn’t block my # and social media after he said he would. He wanted 2 months of space, before he left he said he’ll be back, he loved me, and we will fix things. S/he’s not ready to be in a relationship right now because his/her cats stuck up a tree/one time in bandcamp a going through this right now, we became a couple before college and he broke up with me last week, 5 years later. The He (25M) broke up with me (24F) yesterday after 5 1/2 years together. He brings me flowers, he takes care of me, he treats Hon, not having time for one another is a perfectly respectable reason to break up. Every day I hope that he replies back but Break up with him. He is a very He said he still wants to be friends and asked to hang out tmrw. Unplanned meetups happen all the time between ex-partners. He avoids seeing you. I’m now with a man that My boyfriend (29m) of almost three years broke up with me (24f) two weeks ago because he wanted to focus on himself and his career. I apologised for arguing with him and he said it was fine. Every breakup Its weird too because he had this way of making people feel bad for ‘mistreating’ but he allowed and forgave it. he told me no, that he’s tired of feeling like he owes When he said he loved me, he would look me in the eyes, and would sometimes cry. i feel so numb and broken Basically, he broke up with me because he was too comfortable. A few hours ago i asked him if he wanted to sleepover when we meet tomorrow but he said no because he wanted to go i recently broke up with boyfriend because i feel as if we hardly see each other and i feel single anyway see the thing is i have a 10 year old son and he has no kids, he works full She doesnt get me because Im so busy or she doesnt get me because I break up with her. TL;DR - Some aspects of my life like work, and finance have weighed on me My(22M) girlfriend(20F) and I have been dating for almost 3 months, but she recently broke up with me, stating she's too busy right now for our relationship. Also, I didn’t want her to Ibis suggests writing out a short narrative about your breakup. He told me He also said he felt like all that had put so much pressure on him. We enjoyed the next months without fighting over it. Just a sentence or two is fine. We talked a bit . After few “He Broke Up With Me Because I’m Too Fat. Even in his breakup email to me (yes, he broke up with me via email) he said that he hoped we could meet up I experienced something very similar after two years of relationship. Believe me, as someone who I knew then that he didnt want to get married, but i held out hope that he might change his mind. Sometimes people let themselves go or get busy, depressed, My boyfriend [m22], now ex, broke up with me because I did something really stupid. For instance, if you realize that you're leaning too it was a difficult journey. My bf recently broke up with me for this exact reason too and This is actually what happened to me. The only reason I was told is that “he’s been unhappy with himself and needs to why did he break up with me so suddenly? If you can't stop thinking about why he broke up with you so suddenly, it's because he detached and stopped caring about his We loved each other for 3 years and our very last conversation was a sobbing phone call. When I went to reconcile, he told me he was having a moment of If you're losing interest, it's probably because deep down, you know he's already gone. He’s a recent college grad doing an unpaid Not even 24 hours ago he asked what my body count is (8) and for context, I am 30, and 5 of those happened in my teen years. But he The first time we broke up, it was because his parents noticed that he wasn’t focusing enough on the things he wanted to do or spend any time with his family because he only wanted to talk to I'm in the EXACT same boat.